Recently I have been talking to a few ladies at work who have gone through long TTC journeys to get their input and doctor recommendations. One coworker (who went through IVF three years ago to conceive her daughter and was really open at the time with several of us at school) highly recommended a local RE. She also mentioned another coworker had more recently seen the same RE.
When I went to talk to that coworker she was really open and honest about her struggles to get, and stay, pregnant. She also highly recommended the same RE. (I can hear the peanut gallery saying, "But Sun! You're only in month 11, it's too early to call an RE." And you right. We're not quite ready to call the RE, it does make me feel good that should it come to that, there is an RE in the area who comes recommended to me by two ladies I trust). However, when I was talking to this second coworker, she also mentioned that she loved her OB. When I told her I didn't have an OB she gave me her number and said I definitely needed to give her a call (also mentioning that two other young mothers in our school use this same OB). I'm due for my annual anyway, so I took the number with the intention of calling. However, the more I talked to my coworker (and shared some of our TTC journey) she mentioned that all I probably needed to fix my "problem" was Clomid. She went on and on about how it really helped her ovulate and that since I don't typically O until after CD20 it would probably be all I need. She also mentioned she took Clomid after the OB wrote her the Rx (she later transferred to the RE after two early loses and continued taking Clomid with him). After hearing "Clomid" and "OB", a few little alarm bells went off in my head. I told her that I had heard that Clomid should only be taken when properly monitored. She agreed and said that her OB can do ultrasounds.
After talking to her I also went to talk to another close friend. When she realized I was looking for an OB she recommended hers as well (he's delivered her two children and helped her through 13 months of SIF). I've been talking to her throughout this whole journey, and since she went through a long process conceiving her second, she's my only friend who truly understands how wearing this process can be. Anyway, she mentioned that her OB doesn't do any testing until the one year mark and again urged me to give him a call since I was due for my annual anyway.
So, here's my dilemma:
The first OB (the one may or may not pass out the Clomid candy) has an office 5 minutes from my house and the hospital she's associated with is 15 minutes away. The second OB (who doesn't do testing until a year) has an office 20 minutes from our house and his hospital is 45 minutes away. The second OB sounds more like a doctor who is on the same TTC wavelength as myself, but is more inconvenient for office visits/hospital. The first is very convenient, but may not be the best fit for me if serves up unmonitored Clomid.
With that said, I would never take Clomid without proper testing/monitoring. So, as long as I'm an advocate for myself, is there any harm in seeing the more local OB? What's a girl to do?
I would think that the OB close to you would be an ok choice because you are more informed than most people when it comes to clomid and you can always say no (until proper testing is done) if the MD offers it to you. You did your due diligence when it comes to your own body which is refreshing. Plus if you dont like that OB then you can always choose the other one...
ReplyDeleteI agree with Unknown, start with the OB close to you. If they are pushy with the candy, or you find your eyeballs aching from all the eye-rolling, then move on to the other OB. No reason not to start with convenience
ReplyDeleteI think you could see the closer OB but continue to be an advocate for yourself if you felt that was a better fit for you. You are smarter than the average bear and already have a ton of TTC knowledge that the average nooblet may not have. If you don't like her after you meet with her or she is too pushy for your tastes/ is not on the same wave length then go with doctor number 2.
ReplyDeleteThe other thing is are we sure that the girl wasn't pushing for clomid? Granted that is no excuse to not be monitored and yadda yadda.
I agree that you would be ok seeing the local OB. You are well educated... as long as you are willing to advocate for yourself - I think it will work. (And you could switch if it ends up not being the fit you were looking for!) Good luck... thinking of you!
ReplyDeleteSee your local OB you have the knowledge, and can advocate for yourself. Do not feel pressured to accept anything that you don't want. Like MrsM said, you can always switch if is not a good choice for you. <3<3
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